A Day at Works

Myth-1 Always be in the office before your boss arrive

if you are late, boss will think you are a slacker

Why this is a myth: Boss recently more concern to your output than your effort

Try this: make sure your boss know you are putting n extra effort, ex. “I had to work over the week-end on this report…”, “Can I send you e-mail on Saturday evening?”

Myth-2 Ask permission before bringing up difficult issues

Background: you need to make sure the boss in a good mood, when you deliver bad news

Why this is a myth: if you don’t tell the bad news immediately, somebody else will

Try this: deliver bad news as a context of what your are doing to fix it, ex. “Our prime customer complaint, so I make a rapid coordination meeting to visit the customer and make a recovery”

Myth-3 Suggest the way to make boss more popular

Background: boss will appreciate you making him more populare

Why this is a myth: if your boss is not popular, there are very little you can do to change that perception

Try this: give the boss credit for what he does well especially when the spy is around, ex. “John easily loosing his temper, but he is really has sharp brain”

Myth-4 Minimize contact of your boss to your subordinate

Background: if your boss checking you by investigating your subordinate, he might reveal how bad you are

Why this is a myth: attempting to control flow of information is utterly pointless; it is better to trick by manipulating the source of information

Try this: cue your subordinate to reinforce the message you are giving to the boss, ex. “When the big boss asking what you are doing, be sure to point out how well our teamwork”

Myth-5 Never say anything to the boss when you are angry

Background: don’t say anything you will regret

Why this is a myth: your emotion is not the problem, the issue is how you express it

Try this: stay cool, and when you are frustrated or angry, say so but without explosion by focusing on facts and problem. If you angry because of boss’s attitude or non-work related behavior, remember that by design corporate world is an autocratic system

In one of the company, there is a female Manager who has been known of her bitchy attitudes.
She is in 35s, single but has a reputation as a girl of married man across level of the firm. When she was an Officer, she was intimate to her Branch Manager. When she was a Supervisor she was known as a concubine of a rising star Regional Manager, and last but not least her charm also touching the Board of Director. Amazingly she often manages multi intimate relationship at once.
Hearing this story, I felt a shame. A trophy girl who also a Manager is in action and let go because no one have enough courage to consider attitude than output.
As a Manager, she gives wrong example, and some Officers start doing the same bitchy attitude and appearance to manipulate weak man in power.

This model of behavior certainly starts because supported by ‘management’, for instance something that is consider not dangerous, straightly for the purpose of the business such as hiring sexy woman as a marketing officer. The intention to seduce customers then slow but sure become a weapon to manipulate the boss. Yes the boss, because when we influence colleague & follower, love and fear generally cost less and quite productive. In managing or influencing up, sex is the productive weapon even compared to networking with authoritative person in top.

Love, different to sex. Love is not manipulating because self-sacrifice (some people say that we should find the best for ourselves or “to have” – but I think the old value, find the best in others or “to give” is greater). Thus love is positive, while sex is love influenced by egoism, that is the fear of left alone. So when we behave to win sympathy of others (sub ordinate or super ordinate), then actually it is not love – it is sex in subtle was; like when we talk about hard core and soft porn or erotism – both are focusing on oneself.

The insight is that, we simply tolerate un-ethical behavior especially concerning sex as a private and extra office business but evidence shows that healthy corporate culture, especially in performance evaluation, promotion and the most importance, morale are destroyed. Employee understands that there is more than one-way to reach the top, including using sex and love.
Secondly, because woman naturally falls to this misconduct thus a man need to beware of this.
Third, because we naturally have fear in heart… easily do anything for ourselves.
Forth, the last is because without organizational support (company, state, community, etc.) becoming the one which is manipulative is more reasonable moreover evidence shows that a wolf is always a king in a kingdom of sheeps.

[1] Suspect flattery. Sincere compliments from a coworker or a boss are nice, but outrageous flattery is often an attempt to draw you into a psychopath’s snare. If you feel your ego is being massaged, you may be dealing with a psychopath. Be careful.

[2] Take labels and titles with a grain of salt. Just because someone is older, has a higher position or more degrees, or is wealthier than you are does not mean his or her moral judgment is better than yours.

[3] Always question authority when it conflicts with your own sense of right and wrong. This may be hard to do, but it is crucial to your own career and well-being.

[4] Never agree to help a psychopath conceal his or her suspicious activities at work.

[5] If you are afraid of your boss, never confuse this feeling with respect.

[6] Realistically assess the damage to your life. If it’s too great, you may have to leave.

Remember that living well is the best revenge.
source: http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/96/open_boss-fasttake.html